When You Have Outgrown Him

Whether to Stay or Go

by Dr. Kimberly Ventus-Darks

What happens when your husband is over thirty and still watches cartoons? What does it mean when you are looking for a second job and your husband spends his free time playing video games?

The media and popular culture often attribute women’s restlessness in relationships to either stress or the “super woman syndrome.” In her book When You Have Outgrown Him, Dr. Kimberly Ventus-Darks clearly identifies and confronts the taboo topic no one wants to reveal: some women outgrow their mates. She provides a clear guide to evaluating whether to stay in or leave the relationship.

Imbalances in relationships often grow as some women seek to strive and achieve greater success and maturity than their mates. Most women are reluctant to discuss the idea of outgrowing their mates because many of these men may still be loving fathers, committed family men and hard workers, which adds to women’s conflicting emotions. Dr. Ventus-Darks provides practical solutions for growth issues, insightful self-assessments and productive ways to prevent outgrowth, helping women sort through the shame and confusion they feel when their partners are immature, boring and/or not an equal partner in life responsibilities.

In When You Have Outgrown Him, Dr. Ventus-Darks exposes the ways couples sabotage their relationships and presents constructive resolutions for relationship troubles. Women’s real-life stories illustrate and make accessible unique predicaments of outgrowth to readers. With Dr. Ventus-Darks’ guidance, women will confront the issue that they have outgrown their mates and choose whether to leave the relationship or follow one of Dr. Ventus-Darks’ customized paths toward creating better, long-lasting relationships.

Dr. Kimberly Ventus-Darks has a doctorate in Interpersonal Communication and Administration from Union Institute in Cincinnati, Ohio, as well as a Graduate Degree in Health Care Administration from Antioch University in Yellow Springs, Ohio, and a BA in Health Care Administration from Union Institute in Cincinnati, Ohio. Dr. Ventus-Darks is a national and international motivational speaker and president of The Dr. Kim Experience, LLC, consulting business. She has also been an advice columnist, professor and radio personality. More information about Dr. Ventus-Darks can be found on her web site, www.drkimspeaks.com. She resides in Cincinnati, Ohio.

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Nonfiction, 5 1/2 x 8 1/2, 236 pages
Self-help/Relationships
LC #2010925083, world rights
ISBN 13: 978-0-88282-320-1 (pb), $14.95