You Owe Me

The Emotional Debts That Cripple Relationships

by Eric J. Cohen, Ph.D. and Gregory Sterling

Often in intimate relationships, one partner is called upon to "give" more than the other—to put a spouse through school, to raise a family, to provide stability, to indulge the other sexually and/or emotionally. A "ledger of love" is created.

All too often, such imbalances, according to Dr. Cohen, create guilt-ridden or unfair relationships, further compounded by inadequate communication, discrepant expectations and false assumptions. These pave the way for misunderstanding and eventual disillusionment. The result is emotional debt. But, if emotional debts can be exposed and acknowledged, relationships can be restored and revitalized through a process the authors call Debt Resolution.

By helping partners unveil and resolve their relationship debts, couples achieve the freedom of no longer being in debt, and in "being even," grow and experience real emotional richness together.

"Fascinating look at the desctructive ways we keep score and how to stop."
— Sunday Oregonian

"If outbursts are getting in the way of your relationship, try these tips from Cohen."
— Ladies Home Journal

"Offers proven methods for negotiating debt settlements and explains how to achieve and maintain balance in a relationship."
— Library Journal

"Much to be gained from this book...a practical easy-to-use book that could benefit many relationship partners."
— ForeWord Magazine

*Syndicated by Ladies Home Journal and the Los Angeles Times
*Featured in Parents Magazine

A New Horizon Press Release
Self-help/Relationships
6 x 9, 224 pages
LC# 98-68325, world rights
ISBN: 0-88282-178-4 (pb), $13.95